...let me answer this straight instead of giving the obvious version,,,,

...i lived with my Mother for 42 long years!!!...her life was a saga of dedication, love ,

affection and sacrifices for her children and our father....if i have learned any good traits

today the major chunk of credit goes to my Mother...!!

...and then i lived with my Father for 39 years!...-my father raised his 8 children on a paltry

two digit a month ,but he bequeathed to us much more valuable than money. He advised

us , never cheat, never lie, always be honest, work really hard, and money will follow

you !!...today all of (except two- one is physically challenged, and the other died young) us

are well educated, self reliant and independent leading contented life, all in

Bangalore..........

..on 14th of this month we will be celebrating his 100th anniversary !!...

....both of them are no more today but they live in every cell of mine!!...while my father died

of heart attack and stroke suffering for 15 days, my Mother suffered for more than one

year, bed-ridden with terminal cancer. and finally succumbed to it in a most pitiable and

gruesome manner...

..Sorry ...for this long and winding sob story ...somehow i felt like sharing...

-jagadish

....First and the foremost: come to terms with the reality 

and

know well that only thing which is certain is change and everything is transient .

....here i recall a quote by Swami Vivekananda
 
' ...This Life is too short .The vanities on this earth are transient. He only lives who

lives for others . The rest are better dead than alive. ! "

As for me , under such situation i resort to  

Swimming--Meditation--Reading  and  A long Solitary Walk ...

and

realise soon that

This   Too   Will   Pass....

Amen

-jagadish